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[phineasjones]

the service i missed at the noho UU church yesterday was, like, written exactly for me. and, you know, all of you. my paraphrase of the write up: fandoms; the good and the bad and how they affect and interact with real life. no kidding. damn, i wish i hadn't missed it.

driving J and A home from the tomato festival yesterday, i got to talking HP with A. she's a big fan, more than i realized. and we talked in a fairly geeky manner, picking at some details. but it was SO HARD to do this without talking about slashy things. erg. and i don't know, i might be willing to tell her about slash... i wasn't yesterday, not while driving with the wind blowing in my ear and making me have to shout half of what i was saying. but J and A are the most wholesome little folks i know. i have no idea at all what their reactions would be... especially since they love HP. if they didn't care, well, they probably wouldn't care. but as they do care, i could see A being weird and judgmental. she's kind of like that.

i just saw a guy run through the funeral home parking lot and in through the 'flower' door. now, why would someone at a funeral home have to run?

i put way too much olive oil in the tomato sauce i made (and froze in ice cube trays like camillafarfalla taught me to) last night. as a result, it was the best frickin sauce i have ever made. omigoodness is it good. i'm sure the very fresh, very yummy tomatoes had a part in it too.

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[emriver.livejournal.com]

reminds one of the expression "he'd be late for his own funeral"

[semielliptical]

it was SO HARD to do this without talking about slashy things

I know what you mean. I have one friend who I think might like slash & fanfic (she enjoyed a few slashy Lord of the Rings parodies I showed her, and we squee fannishly over some of the LOTR guys together) but I'm also afraid to bring it up.

Not that she would be offended, I think I'm more afraid of a "you waste your time reading that?" reaction. But I hate to think that my fear is keeping a friend from discovering the beauty that is slash. *g*

Have you ever introduced someone to slash and/or fanfic?

[phineasjones.livejournal.com]

Have you ever introduced someone to slash and/or fanfic?

::cackles gleefully::

well, yes. camillafarfalla and harrimad_sol are my grand success stories - in that they are now just as (or, almost as) obsessed as i am. i just got to a certain point - when i finally got over the shame and then the embarrasment etc - when i figure there was no reason not to tell people. i don't tell people i work for - for, i think, obvious reasons - but friends and family mostly know what i'm up to. some don't care, some thinks it's weird but still don't really care, some think it's sort of sociologically interesting, some are mildy insterested and some, yes, are obsessed now too. i happen to have great, open-minded friends and family. but there's still a certain level of people i just don't know what to do with. like this J and A. they're more my gf's friends than mine. and they're both teachers and, like i said, bizarrely wholesome. i would tell them probably, if it came up again. but i can't really imagine their reactions.

if you're afraid someone would think you're wasting your time, you could always choose not to mention the amount of time you give it... present it as a wee hobby. though i suppose that might be lying. ;)

[wildgreentide.livejournal.com]

i just got to a certain point - when i finally got over the shame and then the embarrasment etc - when i figure there was no reason not to tell people.

Yes, yes, yes. I think the first RL person I told about my slash obsession was scottxwl--seeing as he maintains a website devoted to lesbian subtext on Xena, however, it wasn't too much of a risk. ;-) I also told my mom recently, in a very casual manner: when that Boston Globe Magazine article about HP fanfic came out, she gave it to me because she knows I'm into the books, and we discussed it a bit, with me mentioning offhand, "well, when I first got into slash, it was all about Smallville," etc., and then explaining the whole concept of slash... and she was totally cool with it. But yeah, I don't tell the people I work with, or some of my other friends. I did introduce holdenrevisited to slash, though! Another success story, as she now sees the slash everywhere!

[semielliptical]

You have done good work, bringing more people to fandom! An inspiring story. ;-)

My one RL friend who used to write fanfic, including some fairly explicit slash, seems like a *very* wholesome person. It's been almost 10 years, so I don't remember too clearly, but I know we "came out" to each other at the same time about reading fanfic and then slash during a few conversations, kind of gradually testing the boundaries of what might make the other one flinch.

The few people in my life who do know about my fan interests (husband, sister) just aren't interested in the same way themselves. And the friend I mentioned above has moved on to other interests. So perhaps I'm hoping that this other friend would fill that gap.