roll over for the man

ugh. am editing myself before i even say anything. just. sometimes people say really stupid things. yes.

thanks to all the well-wishers who left lovely comments regarding mmm_cake and my laminated partnership. it was really a practical measure - to get me on her health insurance while i remain mostly unemployed. someday maybe we'll do a real thing - a ceremony of some variety. we both like wearing pretty dresses - so those will probably be involved. and hominidj has a mad urge to wear a tux and be an usher. so... i guess we'll have to try to include that in some way. we'll be creative about it, i'm sure.

so, big plan for the day involves claire and the human rights watch film festival. good times. and it's at the coolidge so that may mean vegan asian food too. mmmm.

i love my new comfy pajamas. so much that i'm still wearing them. :)

hey, cim, was it the right song?

lalala. comfy pajamas. lalala.

i'm weirded out by the wait wait... don't tell me harry potter stories right now. oh god, all the stories are awful... which one is true? i hope it's the hat one... no! ahahaha the dobby looking like putin. ahahaha.

rach and i are going to talk to kids at my church tomorrow night about being gay. lovely. we did this last year too. these kids are like, 12-13. they were impressively interested and respectful last year. the teacher-guy just sent me a list of questions we'll probably be asked. it looks kinda like an lj survey. :)

1. How did you know that you were gay/lesbian/ bisexual/transgender?
2. Have you "come out" to your parents? If so, how did they react?
3. Were you "out" in high school? What was high school like for you?
4. When did you first think that you were gay/lesbian/bisexual/transgender?
5. What is the best part of being gay/lesbian/bisexual/transgender?
6. What is the hardest part?
7. Do you feel welcome/safe here at the church?
8. Where do you feel welcome/safe?
9. Where don't you feel welcome/safe?
10. Do you keep your sexual orientation secret? When? When don't you?
11. What advice would you give to a young person about being gay or lesbian?

ron rant.

oh come on. i'm done with the self-editing. time for a mini-rant.

it's my own fault for reading opinions with which i know i'm not going to agree. but. ugh.

so. ron/harry. that's what's got me all worked up today. and no, not in that way.

i'm so sick of people saying that the pairing doesn't work because ron is so obviously straight. wtf? there is no canon support for any character being gay. NONE. because jkr never, never mentions any boy having sexual/romantic feelings for another boy. and that would be the only canon support for 'gayness' worth discussing. if you're going to tell me that ron can't be gay because he's so boyish (or sloppy or not very bright - or whatever)... just don't bother. i know what the stereotypes are, thanks, i don't need an hp-based lesson. anyone who reads hp and decides that draco can be gay because he is stuck up and a little prissy (not to mention the wizard-equivalent of a racist) but ron can't because he's not those things... is missing a huge fucking point. and i think many people need a reminder that many of the other stereotypes that lead one to easily accept draco as gay are fanon, not canon.

also. the "problem" of so many h/r fics making ron the top? um. again, jkr never delves into the sexual dynamics between these two does she? if ron as top is not believable it's because the author didn't write it convincingly - not because of some inherent character trait of harry or ron. canon harry and ron are frickin 14 years old, people. this probably hasn't really come up for them. and yes, most authors probably don't write it convincingly. i've already gone on and on about the sorry state of h/r fic.

this makes me want to take starbuckle away somewhere where we can write angsty, smutty best friend love to our hearts' content.

i mean, from a wider view, slash usually impresses me in the way it ignores stereotypes and gives any person/character a full palate of sexual possibilities. not so much with ron, though. it's too bad.

major disappointment

we got our domestic partnership stuff in the mail already. they didn't laminate the cards. :(