i love you all! really. lots!!! ::nervous smile::

[phineasjones]

am i the only one who gets really stressed out over the whole friends list concept? maybe the problem is the term 'friends.' i wouldn't deny any worthy people my friendship! yet i cannot possibly take the time to read posts of all worthy people. and i actually read most of my friends page. so... ? people with 300+ friends, what do you do? filter? but then... what's the point?

arhoerigkjh!!! why do i care so much? i'm becoming convinced that no one worries about this as much as i do. ::sigh:: i recall happily the days of 50 friends. that was manageable. 70 is pushing it. what to do? what to do?

jeeennnnnnnyyyyyy!!!!!!! annnnneeeeyyyyyyyy!!!!!! where are yooooooooouuuuuuu??????

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[fearlessdiva.livejournal.com]

When I passed 100 I had to start filtering. The cool thing about filtering is that I still have all those folks on my friends list, and I can read them when I have time. And I actually do. About once a week I get caught up enough to check on everyone and skim through the backlog. But on a daily basis, the load is reduced enough that it's manageable, and it's all the people that I'm most interested in. And this way I can continue to friend everyone who friends me, and keep a loose eye on what folks on my list are doing, without having to slog through almost two hundred friends on a daily basis.

This seems like a manageable solution for the time being. If my list got really, really huge, I might have to institute some other system, but for now I'm really pleased with the filters.

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[phineasjones.livejournal.com]

this is, i think, the most solid advice i've received on this topic. and i like it because i can continue to feel like a nice person. i don't think i've reached totally unmanageable yet... but there are people on my list whose posts i never read... yet i have been reluctant to use a filter. but no more! diva does it! so, like, that means i can too. *g*

[dancingrain.livejournal.com]

I completely second this advice, wholeheartedly. I've just recently set up reading filters since my friends list is now at 199, and it's LOVELY. Previously I'd just use one of my posting filters as a reading filter from time to time, and it never quite worked.
Anyway, now I have 7 (!!!) reading filters, by category. You can read more than one filter at once, so currently, for example, I'm reading two "real people's journals" filters at once. There's another "real people" filter I'll skim later if I have time, after I check out my communities filter, my LOTR-only filter, and my LJ-news-and-updates filter (all much shorter lists). If I'm in a fic mood, I will click to my fic-posting-only journals filter. It's FABULOUS for keeping things organized mentally too. It's easier to read people posts and then move to community posts, for instance.

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[phineasjones.livejournal.com]

yes. i'm starting to see the light here. i've only really had posting filters so far... but a reading filter - or multiple ones - that makes so much sense!

thanks.

oh, and searching for the therapist's number. you'd think i would put it somewhere easy to find. ::sigh::

[blue_ant]

You skim.

I don't want to cut anyone off my friends list and I have 146 people. So I skim.

Makes life a lot easier.

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[phineasjones.livejournal.com]

that's a lot of skimming. hmm. ::ponders::

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[blue_ant]

It might be, but for it works.

[samfeasor.livejournal.com]

You get rid of us pour souls that you don't know very well. Or just don't friend us and let us continue to bask in the glow of youness, without having to deal with our entries and their related glows. :)

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[phineasjones.livejournal.com]

aw. no! but that sounds so heartless and cruel. well, not the basking part. urg. this is all so confusing.

[boixboi.livejournal.com]

I s'pose that is the disadvantage of having a "life" and "things to do." There are about 45-60 posts a day on my friends list, sometimes more...but I rarely lose track because I get to sit here for a lot of my day. So that's how I manage 90. And yes, I also skim...don't tell anybody, but summa the people on my list are sorta boring, and if I get a nice big text block in front of me-- I don't read it!

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[phineasjones.livejournal.com]

life? things to do? no, i think it's more like i have chatty friends. there are only 70 but they post at least 100 posts a day.

and yeah, i'm already doing some skimming... can't really help it. hmmm... but somehow i feel like actually filtering out those people whose posts i usually skim by would be mean or dishonest. yeah, i know, i need to get over this.

[boixboi.livejournal.com]

No, no, I am exactly the same, I think it would be wrong, personally...could never bring myself to it.