encounters with the minister

[phineasjones]

belated waves to delirieuse, earthquake1906 and impudent_rabbit. hi!

so, just got back from the church staff meeting. interesting moment at the end when it was just the minister and i. she's doing a service in february on relationships and intimacy... she was thinking some musical theater pieces might be appropriate...

her: since it's about intimacy and relationships, it would be great if we could have male/female duets.
me: inside: fuck you, again? we're supposed to be a gay friendly congregation yet every time we do anything about love or sex, it's totally male/female relationships that are displayed. but i won't say anything right now, i just want to get out of here
outwardly: ::unintentionally visible bristling:: yeah, great.
her: you don't like that idea?
me: no, it's good.
her: but you don't like something, what is it?
me: well... just because it's about relationships, doesn't me mean it has to be male/female.
her: oh my god, i'm so sorry. you're so right. of course. sorrysorrysorrygushgush. blush.
(i thought she might cry)
me: s'ok. don't worry about it. inside:i just want to go home now!

the two things that bug me about this are:
1. disappointment in myself that i didn't just speak right up, that she had to push me to voice my valid criticism
2. why the fuck should i have to remind her of this? she's a UU minister sitting across from a lesbian. and this didn't even cross her mind? ergehrgeh. she makes me crazy.

Comments

devil's advocate re: evil minister

[emriver.livejournal.com]

Give her half a point for catching your bristle. Was she perhaps thinking of you as an employee/co-worker and not of your sexuality? Why bother with her overblown apology?

[delirieuse.livejournal.com]

*waves* Hi!