oh yes, there's plenty of room up here on the soapbox. ::scoots over::
yeah. exactly. i remember this day in grad school when a bunch of people i was talking with - normally pretty sensitive people - started talking about how, i dunno, your possessions multiply when you get married or something. and really, they were talking about living with someone. which i do. but i was completely excluded because of the words they were using. it felt awful. and then you have to decide whether to let it slide so they can remain comfortable or to point out what's happening and make everyone else as uncomfortable as you are. that day i just walked away.
and i don't even know that i'd want to get married, per se, if i could, but these situations bring home to me that i can't, whether i want to or not. and i don't really need that rubbed in my face. and neither do you. pfft on the presumptuous lunchers in the kitchenette.
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Date: 2003-09-02 09:26 pm (UTC)yeah. exactly. i remember this day in grad school when a bunch of people i was talking with - normally pretty sensitive people - started talking about how, i dunno, your possessions multiply when you get married or something. and really, they were talking about living with someone. which i do. but i was completely excluded because of the words they were using. it felt awful. and then you have to decide whether to let it slide so they can remain comfortable or to point out what's happening and make everyone else as uncomfortable as you are. that day i just walked away.
and i don't even know that i'd want to get married, per se, if i could, but these situations bring home to me that i can't, whether i want to or not. and i don't really need that rubbed in my face. and neither do you. pfft on the presumptuous lunchers in the kitchenette.